I came to a painful realization today... I can't wait to start over. There are so many friends and acquaintances that I am truly going to miss whenever we move on. However, I yearn for a day that I can form new relationships knowing what I know now. I know I will have some dear friends who will keep in contact. I know there are people who love me but will fall away... which is sad, but a part of life. Then there will be those who I believe want to be a "good" friend, but for some reason can't be... and it's time for that separation to happen. I do know that I have a hard time accepting the state of those relationships when I am near (geographically). I can not let go. I feel great guilt about them. Even now, I judge myself as I feel relief just thinking about the chance to escape that pressure.
I am currently up writing this blog because I am too filled with anxiety to sleep. I literally am lying bed with a pain in the pit of my stomach... a rumbly in my tumbly... not from normal hunger, but a much more pressing desire. I am craving the support, understanding, and grace that I have shown many times over, but rarely request in return. I realize that many of the frustrations I have in my relationships are my own doing... I have set a standard in my relationships, and now that I am trying to raise that standard, I don't think people know what to do with that. My expecting better in return is being viewed as my not being a considerate or tolerant friend. It makes sense. I set myself up for this long ago. I can smile through almost any circumstance, and can forgive most any situation... I can be rid of the anger and resentment. People just don't seem to understand that the pain does not go away with that. I am not one who will forget. There is a difference between releasing anger and remembering the hurt. I will put on the emotional oven mitts before touching a hot situation again... I will always be aware of the first time I burnt.
I do not mean to say that I want to run away and leave my relationships behind. I'm doing my best now to be genuine and grow in those that are important to me. I just look forward to having an opportunity to building a few with much stronger foundations.
I want to focus on on a few people, to not spread myself so thin. I truly have changed during my time in SoCal... honestly, most people I know love me for who I was. Bits of "crazy Bri" are still in here... but it's time for Briana to live her life. She loves her husband and is learning to put him first. She prefers quality over quantity now. She needs time to herself. And while it terrifies her, she is learning not allow herself to be devalued. She bit by bit is learning to love herself.
She also apparently talks in the third person now. She will work on this. :)